Comments on 2 Pink Lines: You've Certainly Got Your Hands Full!

I am in total awe of you Marussia and indeed of al...

2009-06-11T15:45:10.787-07:00

I am in total awe of you Marussia and indeed of all mommies... Your children are so beautiful! My hat is off to you all!

Hey Reesh, hang in there! And please don't beat y...

2009-06-10T22:16:57.163-07:00

Hey Reesh, hang in there! And please don't beat yourself up over feeling happy to go to work. I too am happy to return to the office on Monday after a three-day weekend with a toddler. The office, where everything stays where I put it, and once in a while people say "Good job" or even just "Thank you"! Yes, the civilized world ... don't feel guilty for enjoying it!

I certainly don't have anything more to add to the...

2009-06-10T18:55:43.296-07:00

I certainly don't have anything more to add to the intelligent and thoughful comments above, but thought I would anyways. I use to get the 'handsful' comment all the time while walking my two large (and very well trained if not a tick quirky) dogs. I think it's just something people grab for when they see a situation they can't immediately relate too; or in your case see a cute little family and just have to say something to acknowledge you before they burst from the cuteness you exude.

Hi. I have read for a long time but not commented...

2009-06-09T14:34:02.465-07:00

Hi. I have read for a long time but not commented for... years? I have twin 3 yr olds and a 1 yr old, so in a similar boat to you. I stayed home for 2 years, and it was beautiful and also very hard (with the twins, I mean). One of my boys had health issues, and that added to the stress. On the other hand, there were lovely walks, snuggles, and sweet moments. Baby #3 came, and I had to go back to teaching in order to help support the family. It's been hard having him with a babysitter, but to my surprise, I feel a lot saner than I used to. For real. My objectivity has returned. Being a working mom *is* a lot easier in many ways (although, I don't think people should be quick to assume that it's a simple exsistance by any means). For one thing, I believe in what I do- I make a difference and contribute my talents to the world, not just through raising my children but in ADDITION to raising my children. It sounds like you do too, in starting your juice bar- a place where people can go to be healthy and to relax. Also, my baby has a truly wonderful babysitter who loves him with all her heart- and he loves her too. It sounds like your children are getting to know their dad even better when you are away. How awesome is it that a child should know that someone other than his or her mom loves him and can be there for him? Again, in ADDITION to his mom. Just to give the full picture and be completely honest, I don't feel like I am quite as intimately connected with #3 as I was with the twins. But we do our best- I still breastfeed, which helps a lot with the bond, and he is always delighted to see me and to see his babysitter. So at least for now, he is happy as a clam. All this to say that it's natural to feel worn out and guilty and all that with 3 very small children. (By the way, I get that "hands full" comment constantly!) And it's okay to prefer your work outside the home sometimes. Balance is not often encouraged in MomWorld is very real ways, but I think it really should be. Moms are people too, and you can be completely dedicated without being completely sacrificing of your well-being.

I think although I laughed out loud at the elbow s...

2009-06-08T09:36:00.958-07:00

I think although I laughed out loud at the elbow story I can understand your frustration. I am sorry that you are having some down days but at least it's safe to say ...we all do. Being a Mom is super hard work. So, I imagine being a mom of three is three times as hard.

I totally hear you on this! Of course, I only have...

2009-06-08T05:10:29.866-07:00

I totally hear you on this! Of course, I only have two so far, but the oldest is very...firey? The baby is my sweet cuddler, my calm in the storm, as I call her.

Now that my husband & I are working from homes he's doing a lot of chores & taking care of the kids while I'm in the office on the phones. WOW. How much easier it is to be a working mom. I don't take nearly as much satisfaction in the job & I do prefer rearing my children, but, working is definitely easier.

Well written Reesh! I laughed out loud about what...

2009-06-07T23:49:57.689-07:00

Well written Reesh! I laughed out loud about what Lily said...I've decided it pisses me off too that I can't do that! LOL!

Comments that contain presumptions or implied judg...

2009-06-07T22:05:39.729-07:00

Comments that contain presumptions or implied judgment can be irritating - that's what "you must have your hands full" smacks of.
As for how you're experiencing this mom-of-three thing, thank you for sharing your feelings and streses and of course, all that love! I can't imagine ... and have to say what you must hear all the time too, that I've got my hands full with one, can't imagine THREE! But of course, we get through things somehow, and as cliched as this sounds, I believe that we are given as much as we can handle. And you're doing it!!

I get that comment a lot with only 2...I can only ...

2009-06-07T21:49:24.924-07:00

I get that comment a lot with only 2...I can only imagine how much I will hear it once I have 3 as well.....

Hang in there...all too soon you will get to regail tales of their rebellious teenage years!